This week is Good Divorce Week but what does that actually mean?

Resolution is shining a light on the idea that, while separation is never easy, it doesn’t have to be destructive. The phrase “good divorce” might sound contradictory as after all, divorce marks the end of a relationship, but the reality is that how a couple chooses to separate can make all the difference to their emotional wellbeing, their finances, and above all, their children’s future.

What Do We Mean by a “Good Divorce”?

A “good divorce” isn’t about pretending that everything is fine, or that separation isn’t painful. It’s about focusing on cooperation rather than conflict and finding ways to resolve differences constructively. The goal is to move forward with dignity, fairness, and respect.

Resolution is the community of family justice professionals who promote a non-confrontational approach to family law. Their principles (Code of Practice) encourage separating couples to prioritise communication, empathy, and the best interests of the whole family rather than “winning” a dispute.

The Benefits of a Constructive Approach

1. It’s Better for Children

Research consistently shows that it’s not divorce itself that harms children, it is the level of conflict they witness. When parents commit to resolving issues calmly and respectfully, children are better able to adjust and maintain strong relationships with both parents. A good divorce helps children feel secure, loved, and reassured that their family, although changing, remains a source of stability.

2. It Saves Time, Stress, and Money

Court battles are costly both financially and emotionally. By choosing mediation, collaborative law, or solicitor negotiation, couples can often reach agreements faster and at lower cost. More importantly, these approaches allow both parties to stay in control of the outcome, rather than leaving decisions in the hands of a judge.

3. It Protects Your Mental and Emotional Health

Divorce is a major life event, and emotions can run high. A good divorce process focuses on understanding, support, and long-term wellbeing. When both parties work to reduce hostility, they are better equipped to heal, rebuild, and move forward with confidence.

4. It Builds a Better Foundation for Co-Parenting

If you share children, your relationship does not end with divorce. It in effect evolves. How you handle your separation sets the tone for your future as co-parents. Couples who commit to open communication and respectful boundaries often find it easier to make joint decisions and support their children’s needs.

How to Work Towards a “Good Divorce”

• Seek professional guidance early. Choose solicitors or mediators who are trained in constructive approaches and members of Resolution (or similar professional bodies).
• Prioritise communication. Be clear, calm, and child-focused in discussions. Avoid using children as messengers or involving them in conflict.
• Stay informed. Understanding your legal and financial rights can reduce fear and uncertainty.
• Look after yourself. Emotional support from counsellors, therapists, or support groups can make a significant difference.
• Keep the bigger picture in mind. Divorce marks an ending, but also a new beginning for you and your family.

In Summary

A “good divorce” does not mean a perfect divorce. It means making choices that minimise harm, encourage fairness, and promote healing. By focusing on respect, communication, and collaboration, separating couples can protect what matters most, their families, their wellbeing, and their future

If you are considering a divorce, and you would like help with keeping the situation amicable or you would like to discuss further, please contact me at Kelly.geter@phillips-law

Written by Kelly Geter, Family Solicitor.